Thursday, July 31, 2008
Tuesday, July 29, 2008
Monday, July 28, 2008
Sunday, July 27, 2008
So, we are without our dad for a month. Andrew had a hard time of it when he first left, but Lucy was more concerned with going to class. And now I'm watching the new Pride and Prejudice. Andrew is having a popsicle. Lucy is sleeping. And there is a HUGE storm brewing outside. I'm always nervous when we have a lot of lightning and wind. There is a huge tree about ten feet from our house, and if the wind ever got strong enough, or if it got hit......the kids room is the closest. It just makes me nervous. And I'm also worried about Matt driving all alone. Logically, I know he's a good driver, and that he'll be fine. But I'm still anxious about it. We've been invited to a friends house for dinner, so that is something to look forward to. Sometimes rainy Sundays can be really long.....maybe I'll make cookies........
Friday, July 25, 2008
Thursday, July 24, 2008
Another great post is this one on Rocks in my Dryer. Being the oldest of six kids, I can understand where this mother of so many is coming from. Every Thursday she has a guest poster talking about her perspective in her life. She's had one from a mother with autistic children, a mother that has lost a baby, and a few others. I think one was a military wife too. I LOVE how this lets you see into another perspective and gets you out of your own little box. It really opens your eyes.
In other news, Matt leaves this weekend for a whole month. He will be doing a rotation at another military post. Good things of him leaving: don't have to share car or computer for a month. (well, I hope he doesn't take the computer) Bad things: I'm all alone all day every day with my kids. With no help. We will be going to the pool and the park and maybe going to DC to see friends and my brother. He will also miss Andrews first day of real school. But we will survive. Because honestly, a month goes by fast. He isn't deployed, so that is also a good thing. And how many other wives out there have had to be on their own for those long fifteen month deployments??? Yeah, I have nothing to whine about. And please understand (for those of you not in the military) why I may have little to no empathy when your husbands leave for a few days or maybe as much as a week. For us, it's a normal thing, and rather than whining, we just do it. Well, most of us just do it. There are the few that whine. (thank goodness I don't know any of those wives right now. I knew one in Germany, and boy, I wanted to give her a good kick. Anne, you know who I'm talking about......) So, no sympathy for me. Don't need it. Just keep my kids for me once or twice so that I can keep my sanity. :) Have a good Thursday!!
Wednesday, July 23, 2008
Tuesday, July 22, 2008
I spent a lot of time yesterday morning searching around for this stuff. I found some of the wooden food on ebay, but it was actually cheaper on this website. Can you tell I'm excited about it? We have some wooden blocks that I bought in Germany, and we love them. I also bought some at Tuesday Morning. They have buckets of blocks that are German made, and we love them! And they'll last forever.
I also sent an email to their grandparents, telling them what we're doing, and letting them know they are welcome to contribute to what we're getting them. Or get them something that goes along with it. No one has said anything, but that's ok. It was just a suggestion. Hopefully they don't take offense. I did say that if they didn't want to contribute, or get something that goes along with it, to please remember that we move a lot, and that stuffed animals take up a lot of space and just get full of dust mites. I really hate stuffed animals. No kid needs more than one or two. And the last ones his mom sent shed dark fuzz all over the place. We threw those out pretty quick. If his mom has a problem, I'll just tell her that Matt was the one who told me to just throw them out. (he did) Sometimes I feel like I'm walking on eggshells with his parents because someone as outgoing and opinionated as I am just kind of rubs them the wrong way. Heaven forbid someone actually says what they think.
Do you like what we're getting the kids? Leapsters are awesome. We had one, but Lucy got to my Mrs. Meyers cleaner and sprayed it all over it. And I'm talking half the bottle. I had to rinse it off to get it all off. So, it died. We only have two games for it. (darn games are so expensive) Hopefully I'll find a good deal on Ebay.
Saturday, July 19, 2008
Thursday, July 17, 2008
Tuesday, July 15, 2008
I have been listening to my book on CD, Without Offense, for a while. I've gotten all the way through it (listening to each CD numerous times before moving on to the next one) and each one was more enlightening than the other. When I "read" these two books, my thinking usually revolves around two different relationships in my life: me and my mother and me and my husband. In the first relationship, it helps me to see where things went wrong. Pinpoint why I struggle with the things I do. Then it helps me to see a way to get past those things and move on to something better. In the second relationship, I can see what I have been doing wrong and what I need to do to change things. I feel that if I know the reasons behind certain of my behaviors, then I can change my thinking to where it should be rather than just sitting around being angry all the time. There isn't much I can do about the first relationship. I live 3,000 miles from her, and talk a few times a month. It would be totally different if we still lived in California and I had to deal with her on a daily basis.
The other night I was talking to Matt about these two books, and he had said he would be willing to read/listen to them. I'll have to kind of push him to do it because he won't take the initiative, but with gentle persuasion I think he will do it. I also explained some of the things I have been learning and how I was trying to make a few changes. I then asked if he could notice a difference in me. And he said yes!!!!! He followed that with "because you're not angry all the time anymore."
The key for me so far has been just a few major things. The first is that I've been more consistent at reading my scriptures. Next, I'm trying really hard to take my love to my husband and take my frustrations to God. So that no matter what that person does, they know that I still love them. It isn't as if I don't speak up and call him on things that he shouldn't be doing or don't get ticked off at him. I just have cut back on those things and tried really hard on just changing myself.
The fact that he has noticed that I have changed has been incredibly motivating. I am more determined that I will continue to listen and read and to implement more change as time goes on. And, of course, get him to listen/read too. Because I'm not the only one that needs to work on some things.:)
Monday, July 14, 2008
Sunday, July 13, 2008
***You can find the details to this months contest here***
I had a mom that everyone thought was a Wonder Woman. At least to my child's eyes. She canned, made her own bread, made most things from scratch. Took a woodworking class and built a table, benches, and ultimately an entertainment center. She could sew anything from a tablecloth to an ornate wedding dress. She had a degree in fashion design. On top of which she had six kids. Gave birth to all of us without any meds. Kept her house clean, active at church, got us to our activities. A long time ago, I stopped trying to live up to that.
For a long time, people expected me to be like her. And when I got married and started to have kids, I knew that being that kind of Wonder Woman was not going to work for me. Mostly because the things that got put aside at the expense at doing all these other things.
So, I am not that kind of wonder woman. My home has never been spotless. I have never baked a loaf of bread in my life. I refuse to learn how to sew. I don't care if the bathroom is cleaned perfectly. I don't worry about whether or not the floor has been vacuumed that day.
I have found that there is something better in life. More than having a perfectly clean house, or matching furniture. More than canning or doing all the things that my mother felt were the things she had to do to be a good mom. There IS value in all the things I mentioned, and our talents are so important. But they are not the priority. I would rather that my kids remembered that I was willing to listen and to talk to them. I would rather they knew I loved them no matter what. I would rather have a good relationship with them regardless of their choices in life because I think those types of things matter in the long run. When judgment day comes, we will not be asked if we baked our own bread, mopped our floors every day and always got the laundry done. I think we'll be asked about how we treated people, and what kind of relationships we had. What we spent our time on. If we happily served people around us. If we were willing to set aside the daily stuff for things that were more important. So while I struggle daily to do the things my mother seemed to do without any problem (and can't seem to understand why I cannot/won't do those same things) I work more on my inside. I work on those other things too, but they come as a result of me changing my insides. I want people to see my Wonder Woman-ness in how I relate to my kids, my husband, and those around me. To me, a Wonder Woman is a woman that as her children grow she continues to have a working relationship with them. One that doesn't judge and criticize (not even in her head) from the moment she is with you, to when she leaves. One that you feel safe with. If I can accomplish that before I die, my life will not be wasted.
Saturday, July 12, 2008
The big pieces of paper on the sides of these boxes were actually huge stickers. Well, adhesive mats is what I think they are really called. But they are just a huge sticker. I cut one in half for the short sides of the box.
I have a ton of tags already done. So I just pop one out, stamp it, and attatch. Easy as pie. And using hemp twine really makes it look cool. Sorry the picture isn't very good. I took it in my car where there wasn't very good lighting.
Here is the other box that I did.
Friday, July 11, 2008
I've been wanting to get some calling cards or mommy cards as some are calling them. I meet a lot of people, and usually I am needing to give someone my phone number or email. So, I found these and I think they are awesome!! I got this to put them in so they won't be a mess in my purse.
I would have gotten more of the calling/mommy cards, but we're moving. And these ones I can just fill in my information rather than have it already printed. When we move and we will be in one place for longer than a year, I think I'll get some made with my information on them. But these will work for now. And everyone will think I'm super cool for even having them. I know it doesn't really matter if they think I'm cool. But I like to think I'm cool.
In the last five years I have learned a ton about this military life that I had no idea about before. It isn't as bad or as scary as you might think. There are some really good benefits. Some awesome people are in the military. Moving around a lot can be a good thing. LDS members of the military are great. Well, most of the time. Having friends that live all over the place is also great. The PX and the commissary can be really awesome.
There are some not good parts of the military. Like rarely seeing the same doctor when you go to a military hospital. Or the really slow speed limits on post. Then there are those that join the military because they got their girlfriend pregnant so they get married and move on post and they are totally clueless about everything. There is the rampant problem of incredibly dirty mouths. People use the "f" word like a verb sometimes. There are those whiny wives of some military members that just don't get that the military is nothing like anything else. And of course deployments.
All in all, it was a great thing for us to join the Army. It isn't for everyone. And sadly, some don't know that until they join and they are stuck for the next four years.
Anyway, happy anniversary to us.
I tried something new today. Well, not really new, but I haven't done it in a long time. I did not wash my hair today. I have always been a wash my hair every day kind of girl, but I thought I would try it today to see how much of my prep time was cut down. The last time I didn't wash my hair every day was back when Lucy was an infant and I had Andrew as a toddler and I was darn lucky to even get a shower every other day. So, today I showered, but didn't wash the hair. It is ok so far. I'll have to think about if I want to make this a regular thing.
Do you ever want to get inside someones head to know what they are REALLY thinking about you?? Cause I've made a friend that I would really like to know what she really thinks of me. I'm assuming she likes me because she still talks to me and invites us over. But we are SO different. Just would like to see what she thinks.
It poured again tonight. Thunder and lightning and the whole thing. It gets oppressively humid before the heavens open like that. It is so humid here and in Texas that when I go back to California, I feel dry. Go figure. I also get sick every time, but who knows where that comes from. (maybe from all the old yucky things in my mom's house she likes to call antiques???)
We should know where we're going to move sometime in August or September. There are a few places in the states that I would like to go. But I really want to go back to Germany. I would much rather be there when/if Matt deploys. He's not much of a traveler (although if we go we've talked about how we'll actually take a German class this time) but I would be able to go to France as many times as I want. And Poland. And hop on a ryanair flight and go visit my friend in Northern Ireland. And to the Czech Republic, Italy, Spain, maybe even Egypt. Anyway, I'm really starting to wonder where we'll be going next.
I think that's all. Now I'm off to organize and clean up our office. Because it is an absolute disaster. I'm hoping I can get it cleaned up completely so that I can start working on my Christmas presents. And then my Christmas cards. Because if I don't start now, it just won't happen. Yeah, I'm that unorganized.
Thursday, July 10, 2008
Wednesday, July 9, 2008
Tuesday, July 8, 2008
Monday, July 7, 2008
Sunday, July 6, 2008
I'm thinking that today was extra bad because Andrew was kind of stinky during sacrament meeting. He made a few bad choices, I took the color wonder marker from him and he proceeded to punch me. Then, walking him out to the foyer, he tries to bite my hand. Oh well. Next Sunday will hopefully be better. And we won't sit right next to his and Lucy's friends. Because then all we hear the whole time is how they want to sit together. OK, I'm done whining. I feel better now. Thanks for listening....
Edited: Ok, want to clarify that I am NOT the new president. Just saying that I do not want that calling because I know what goes into it. And because I find that when I'm complaining about someone else in a calling, I get that calling. So, still the primary pianist, NOT the president. Our bishopric isn't that on top of things.....
I don't know how well you can read this, but this person was born in Scotland in 1774. Died September 24 1848. At least I think that's what it says. And even when you're standing right next to this gravestone, it's really hard to read.
These types of gravestones were just so sad to me. Either their family doesn't know about it, they've all moved, or everyone has passed on and there isn't anyone to take care of it. This was the first time I had ever done this on Memorial Day. And even though we'll be moving a lot, I will find a cemetery (military posts usually have one if there isn't a city one) and we'll be doing this every year if I have anything to do with it.
Friday, July 4, 2008
Since it is our nations birthday, I thought I would share a really cool book that I got when we were in DC. It is called America A Patriotic Primer by Lynne Cheney. But what sold me on the book were the illustrations. Those were done by Robin Preiss Glasser. They are awesome. They have facts about our country for each letter of the alphabet and I love to look at the pictures in the book. They are awesome. They have done some other books together. I'm pretty sure I saw them there but I only have so much money. Anyway, if you want a book that teaches your kids about the history of our country and has awesome pictures, this is the book. I think I got it at the National Archives little gift shop. So I paid full price. But I really think it is worth it. I want to get their other books now.
We are going to a friends house this afternoon. Last year we went to a friends house too, but without Matt. He had to study. This year he gets to come with us. And the three years before last year we got to go and see him perform. I kind of miss that. That was always a lot of fun to do. I'm glad to be able to have him with us this time. Have a happy fourth!