Monday, September 29, 2008

I feel so crippled by this

So, my house is getting better and better by the day. Even yesterday, when I try my best to not "work" on the sabbath, I did a bit of picking up in the kids room. But I was thinking about how to not just allow this to overwhelm me, and I had a thought. I need someone to tell me what to do first, and then next, and then next. How sad is that? But honestly, that was how I was taught. I didn't really get to have much of a choice over how or what I did. And not only that, but whatever it was, it had to be perfect. Now that I've been married for a while, I don't have anyone telling me how, when, and where. (I was rarely told why) Which leaves me looking at the disaster of my house and feeling so overwhelmed, not knowing where to start, and I just sit down with my head swimming. I have such a hard time figuring out what to do first, what is most important, and I end up going from room to room picking up a bit here and there, but not really accomplishing the entire task. Does anyone else feel like this?? On a regular basis? Some days I feel like I'm losing my mind......

6 comments:

Jessica S. said...

I am there with you, friend. Where do I begin? My main priority is always the front room b/c that's what people see when they first come in. And the room that gets the most messy b/c it's the room we are in most of the time. My next priority is the kitchen b/c of the line of sight that can be seen from the living room!
It gets easier when you don't have kids in the house all day - it stays clean a little longer.
You know you need to start feeling bad when your kids or your kids friends tell you the house is messy. A couple years ago one of Dylan's friends said, "Mrs. Skinner, why is your house always a mess?" Or yesterday Jenna told me, "mom the house is so messy, you need a house keeper b/c you can't keep it clean."

Steve-o said...

I'm not on house duty, but I have this problem with work and school. I attribute the problem to too many interruptions and too much multitasking.

My solutions are to turn off email and to work at home. Obviously, those aren't your problems, but maybe my solutions will give you some inspiration.

Oh, and if your kitchen is dirty, then I recommend starting there. There's nothing that makes me want to cook or eat less than a dirty kitchen.

Rachel said...

Hey girl! Start with the counters!! Throw stuff away. Put the dishes in the dishwasher. Then spray on that yummy Mrs. Meyers counter spray and wipe!! Wahlah! Does that help?? :) Luv ya!

Heidi said...

There is a book you should check out called "Houseworks." It's about organizing, decluttering, etc. Along with general housekeeping strategies, it has a section on your clutter "personality" to help you get to the root of why you do what you do. I liked it...I think it helped me to realize things about my personality so now I am aware and can counteract those thoughts and feelings. Good luck!

LCM said...

I start in the girls room and work my way down their hall. I absolutely hate doing something that makes my hands wet, so I avoid bathrooms and the kitchen....not always, I just know if I start with those first I will quit sooner. I use the vacuum a lot because I like to do that and it's nice to see the clean floors. The eat in kitchen is usually what depresses me. No matter how often I clean it, it's almost immediately dirty!

Piouette said...

my morning routine is beds (for those who can't do them yet themselves), and bathrooms to look neat. Showers stay clean a very long time if you can wipe them with your towel right after taking a shower. No soap scum/hard water marks, less mildew opportunities, etc. Same with the sinks & mirrors when I wash my hands. The damp towel is a miracle worker.
I hate doing the same thing twice (one reason why I don't like cooking)so I'm dragon at keeping them clean so I don't have to reado it it right away. Putting things back right where they belong is a big help, especially when it only takes an extra second. At night I always make sure the kitchen is moderately clean. Nothing more depressing in the morning for me and make me want to hole up in my bed that a dirty kitchen. I like my floors vaccumed but I don't do windows and dusting is such a drag and so repetitive in the desert!