Thursday, November 5, 2009

Decisions decisions

I know a while back I had mentioned something about our FRG leader. And about a month ago, I decided that rather than whine and complain about her doing nothing, I would try and be supportive of her. I sent her an email about possibly hosting a meeting at my house, and asked for her number so that I could call her. I called, and we made plans for an FRG meeting. I thought that maybe she just needed some support. And I had talked to a few others within our unit, and there weren't a lot of good things being said about her. Which really is not helpful if you're trying to get people to work together and be supportive of each other. Anyway.......... I hadn't heard from her since I had called her. I sent her an email yesterday asking who had RSVP'd, if there was anything else I could do to help her, and that it might be a good idea to send out a reminder email. Instead of a response, we all got an email today saying that she was stepping down from the position due to personal issues.

So now we are without an FRG leader. Really thinking about doing it. I know of at least two other people who would help with being treasurer, and with the organization end of things. I also know that Christmas is coming, and if we're going get things together as a unit to send to our guys, it has to be done now. And if there isn't someone in charge, nothing will be done.

You know, I've been the president of our local church's women's organization, and I can't imagine that it would be any more difficult than doing that. But I only did that for six months. The potential for failure is huge. But the potential for success is also huge! I feel strongly that when done right, the FRG can be a huge support for our soldiers and families. I know I benefited from it when we lived in Germany. I feel lucky that no matter where I move, I have the church that is an instant support system. I would like to offer that kind of support to people in our unit.

So, now is the decision time. I am very very nervous! I keep going back and forth, trying to decide if it's worth it, if I can handle being the FRG leader and all the rest of the stuff going on in my life, whether or not my emotional health will survive it, if I will be able to actually help our soldiers and our families. And really, if it's even worth it. I don't want to do it and then step down after a few months. If I'm going to commit to it, I want to stick to it.

I'm going to sleep on it. Maybe a few times. I have to figure it out soon. Things need to get started.


Stacey said...

Just do it! You can get it done how you think it should be done! Plus, you're great...and it would be a good way to fill your time serving people- maybe it would make time go faster, and make the gray days of washington not as dreary! good luck!

Mary Alice said...

Good luck on your decision. I understand how hard it can be to see that you could make a difference and yet feel somewhat protective of your own time and energy as you are the one that needs to be fully "there" for your own family right now. I'm thinking of you.

Shelly! said...

I like what Mary Alice said. I guess I feel protective of your time too and want to make sure you feel you can meet the needs of both kids given that you are the sole parent right now...

But at the same time, you and I have talked a lot about you finding something to be passionate about. To put your energy towards...rather than the other stuff it tends to migrate to.

It's a tough call. I"m happy to talk it out with you.

Could you possibly co-chair it? Find someone else who would love to contribute but doesn't want to fully commit? Then you could each be responsible for different aspects?